Walking Away From Unhealthy Relationships – Part 2

Rejection Is A Blessing In Disguise

Contrary to your belief that you were rejected because you were not good enough, rejection means that that person who rejected you wasn’t meant for you, otherwise, they would have stayed with you. They are manipulating you into believing that you are the problem.

As the saying goes, “A broken relationship is better than a failed marriage”. Ask yourself this, what if you had ended up marrying that person only to be rejected some months or years down the line?

It’s better to be hurt with the truth than strung along with lies. Eventually, the lies come to the surface and the relationship crumbles under the weight of the illusion. You wind up getting hurt anyway so why not just deal with the pain of rejection now, pick yourself up and move on?

“In life, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.'”

Rejection is redirection:

Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone and want them in your life, you just have to let them go. Certain people are not meant to fit in your heart.

Stop viewing rejection as unworthiness or failure, instead, see rejection as a path to new opportunities with the right person. If you’re rejected from something, you’re being directed to something better.

“A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success” – Bo Bennett

You Can’t Make Someone Love You and You shouldn’t Have To

You need to suppress the voice in your head that makes you think you can change things or make someone fall in love with you. Don’t try to scheme your way into their someone else’s life or cajole them into wanting you, it will fall apart in the end anyway, if it’s not based on a real connection nor true love.

This may be a tough pill to swallow, but you can’t make someone love you. You can kick and scream or even scheme all you want, but if they aren’t willing to meet you half way, then nothing will change.You can force or coerce someone for a short time but eventually, they will find a work-around if they truly don’t want to be with you.

“Tolerating unrequited love will only lead to frustration.”

You are the prize!!

You need to show that YOU are the prize; the one to be pursued. Rejection hurts really bad, and can drive you crazy if you let it, but the moment you begin to remind yourself of your self-worth, it gets much easier. Rejection should remind you that the only approval you need is yours and no one else’s. Figure this out and you’ll be on your way to recovery in no time.

Don’t sweat the rejection! Charge it to the game as they say and prepare yourself for the next relationship. Never sacrifice your dignity or self respect for love. Remind yourself every day that you define your own worth and people will treat you how you treat yourself. Don’t lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t care about losing you. If you can’t save the relationship, the least you can do is walk away with your dignity intact.

“On the Road To Love, There’s Always Another Bus”

Good luck!