Missing in Action

I haven’t written a blog post in a year now. I have been missing in action. Not really sure why because I do have a passion for writing but, kind of struggling with which direction I should focus on. My blog started as a business consulting platform but I think it needs revamping. I want to make it fun and relatable.

But first, lets figure out my life.

So, I started my PhD programme in October 2017 and it has definitely been a roller-coaster. I had a big bang moment when I chose to do a PhD. It was my contribution to help change my community. I don’t think I want to anymore (this is the stress part talking).

To be honest, the only motivation I have in continuing with my research is the ‘Dr’ title I get at the end. This is because I get to compete with my sister who is an actual medical doctor.

Apparently, this is common in the PhD community. We all get stressed and think of opting out. Something I wish I could just hit the unsubscribe button. Well, this is a story for another day.

Asides my PhD drama, my main struggle is finding a balance between schooling, working and having a social life.

The struggle is definitely real.

One major aspect of my struggle if finding my passion: is it Lecturing, Business Consulting or Law? I ponder on this every single day and I can’t seem to figure it out.

Any tips for your girl?

I love lecturing. I love transferring knowledge known and found to young active minds. Knowing that whatever knowledge I pass to students can be potentially useful to them when choosing their career encourages me to do better. After every lecture, I get a sense of fulfilment that I have made a positive impact on someone.

Not everything is rosy with lecturing. Firstly, teaching boring topics means I get poker faces from my students all through the lecture. Trust me, no amount of jokes can cure a boring topic.

Secondly, marking is the ruthless villain in my love story.  I don’t like marking. Gosh, I hate it. Reading the same thing over and over again feels like I’m developing strabismus (crossed eyes).

Business wise, I love helping people with business-related issues. Being a business owner, I’ve learned a lot and studying an MBA has increased my self-confidence, personal growth, strategic thinking and most especially, my curiosity. When it comes to business, I see opportunities in everything. Show me a pen and I see how to make it better and profitable. This is something I love to share. I don’t hold back when it comes to passing helpful information to people. I see this as a potential career for me and I know I would definitely enjoy doing this.

But, what’s stopping me you ask? Fear! Fear that I might fail.

It’s very ironic that fear is the thing I instill in my friends to overcome when developing their brands. I need to start taking my own advice.

Law, my first love. What would I do without you? You’ve taught me independence, humanity and consequences. You’ve taught me how to live in love, hate and respect. I’ve built a career around you; being a barrister, solicitor (merged in Nigeria) and now a lecturer. You’ve been really good. I can always rely on you when every other thing doesn’t work out. You are my humble backup plan – Plan X.

Above all, I need to find a balance. My social life is non-existing. I owe it to myself to live my life to the fullest and be successful in my career.

Most especially, I need to make money out of my 4 Degrees.